Believing in yourself is a key element to creating the results that you want for yourself in your life…

Let’s talk a little bit about belief. One way of looking at life is that life is a series of results  – your bank balance is a result, the state of your relationships is a result, and you reading this article today is a result! So what gives us our results? Our actions – you take an action and you get a result!

So what gives us our actions, what makes us take the actions we do? Our thoughts. We all have this little voice that chatters non-stop throughout the day. It is consistently chattering with thoughts. These thoughts almost pop into our head likes popcorn. So what gives us our thoughts?

Our Beliefs.

Our beliefs are formed through something we saw, heard and experienced in our past – from teachers, parents, media, society…or repetitive thoughts … when this voice says something for long enough it becomes a belief. As a Fairy Godmother I am interested in the types of beliefs that pull you powerfully into your future and into living the life of your dreams.

So here’s an exercise – write down all the beliefs that you would need to have too achieve the result or dream that you want. Lets imagine you want a new job as a manager – some positive beliefs could be – (it doesn’t have to be true for you – just write down the beliefs). I work well with people, I enjoy managing and empowering others, I earn what I’m worth, I add great value to the company, and I love the work I do. These may not be your beliefs now, but the quickest way to cement them as beliefs and to achieve the results you want is to affirm them to yourself in both your thinking and your speaking.

So – write down those positive beliefs on a piece of paper, keep them in your car and on your way to work every morning, say each out loud 3 x …and whenever you hear your little voice being negative or you hear yourself speaking negative beliefs, – stop it and replace them with your new positive beliefs.

To learn more about how your mind and beliefs help or hinder you in achieving success… attend a two hour talk with Donna McCallum, the Fairy Godmother on Thursday 6 May from 19h30-21h30 at 30 Keyes Avenue in Rosebank (Johannesburg)
To book call 084-207-0202 or email info@fairygodmotherinc.com
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Meditation is hard!

Even though I am a huge advocate of meditation in my book as a way to quieten the mind and connect to the soul, I have always found meditation really hard – having to focus on my breath, a sound, keeping my mind free from thoughts that insist on popping back into my mind – yikes!  That is until 6 weeks ago when I did a Transcendental Meditation course which has made meditation a breeze.

I now find myself easily meditating twice a day for 20 minutes and it has brought incredible calm, peace and real health and vitality to my life.

More on Transcendental Meditation, its benefits and the courses

While Mother Nature begins to paint her canvas with delicate blossoms, warmer days and a tinge of crisp freshness and new beginnings, you may find that your enegy magically begins to lift as you enter into a new cycle.

Our energy is naturally in rhythm with the waxing and waning of the seasons and now after the cozy-up, hibernating feeling of winter, the beginning of Spring brings with it excitement and energy, a time for reflection and a sense of new life, a FRESH START.

How can you use the natural rythym and energy of spring to enhance your life?

How can you use the natural energy of the Spring season to get your body, mind and spirit back into shape?

Here are 5 tips and tricks from the Fairy Godmother to use this Spring-time energy to its full advantage   (click on each of them for all the info)

Tip 1:   Clean up your Space

Tip 2:  Cut out the “Deadwood”

Tip 3:  Climb into your Body

Tip 4:  Massage your Mind

Tip 5: Connect to Spirit

Yes – you are invited to the Book Launch of  The Fairy Godmother’s Guide to Getting What you Want

Date: Wednesday 19 August

Time: 19h00 – until Coaches turn into pumpkins

Venue:  Zenatude, Rivonia Crossing Shopping Centre, Cnr Achter and Witkoppen Roads, Sunninghill, Johannesburg

Anyone may attend

Please RSVP to magicmaker@fairygodmotherinc.com

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In my Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshops (and also in my book) I teach how to create a Future Imagined Memory (FIM) as a key technique to create what you want in your life and manifest your goals.

Briefly, a Future Imagined Memory is a story, in the present tense, of the ‘outcome’ of your dream or goal. This is an imagined and made-up story of a future event with you in it in which your goal has become a reality. This story should be written clearly, describing the experience in detail and, most importantly, in terms of all five of your senses.

After you have created your story, every day for the next 30 days, spend 10 minutes in the morning or 10 minutes in the evening jumping into your Future Imagined Memory. Lie down, get comfortable, close your eyes and relax. Imagine yourself in the scene. While you are doing the exercise, get excited about it: feel the positive feelings, listen to the sounds, enjoy the sensation of having what you want in your life. Do this every day for 30 days and then stop. Thirty days is long enough to turn the Future Imagined Memory into a desire fully felt and understood by the body and the mind.

In the last few months I have received a number of emails from Daring Dreamers with questions about the Future Imagined Memory Technique… so here are 5 additional tips and tricks for you to apply.

Tip 1:  Keep the story exactly the same

Keep the same story for the 30 days; don’t add bits or take bits away.  With the daily repetition the mind will often be tempted to change the story.  It is important to keep the same story so that this becomes ingrained in the mind and to create a vivid future memory.

Tip 2: Make sure it is the outcome not the how

When you develop your FIM story, make sure that the story is an outcome i.e. that you goal or dream is complete. It has happened.  Don’t try to create a story around the process, the ‘how’.  As an example if you have a goal to write a book, don’t imagine sitting behind your computer and typing because that is the process. Rather create your FIM about the book being done eg. being at your book launch, seeing the book in a store or being interviewed on TV about the book.

Tip 3: Sensing rather than vivid

A comment from one of my daring dreamers recently was
“what I find is sometimes I do my FIM it goes really well, most of the time I struggle with hearing, tasting & smelling the others are okay”

In NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) there is a theory that one of our senses is slightly more developed than the others. Your primary senses are visual, auditory and kinesthetic, and normally one of these will be your most prominent sense. You may be a highly visual person. When you close your eyes and imagine your future memory you may be able to ‘see’ all the details reasonably clearly, but the hearing may be a little more difficult. You may be a highly auditory person, which means you are more attuned to sound. When you imagine your future memory you can hear all the sounds clearly but may not be able to conjure up the sense of touch with such clarity. Or you may be a kinaesthetic person, which means emotions and tactile sensations are easy for you to imagine and feel but pictures are a bit hazy and sound not as apparent. Whichever is your primary sense, be aware that it is through this sense that you will primarily experience your Future Imagined Memory. However, focus on the other senses too.

Even though you will be imagining your FIM with your five senses, please note that your FIM will probably not be in Technicolor, Dolby sound with which you experience life.  Doing the FIM is more like sensing things than necessarily seeing, hearing or feeling things in crystal clear clarity.  If it is not sharp and clear don’t worry, just keep doing it.

Tip 4:  Distraction

During the FIM process you may find that your mind begins to wander or gets distracted.  This is very normal.  When you realise that your mind has wandered, gently bring it back to where you were in your story and continue the process.  You may need to do this many times during the process.  Some days you may find you are more distracted than others.

Tip 5: Narrate yourself through the story

For some people it helps to narrate yourself through the story.  You may want to do this silently in your head as you go through the story or a few of my Daring Dreamers like to talk it out loud to themselves, while their eyes are closed and they are imagining it.  An idea is to record yourself narrating your FIM and then listen to the narration every morning – this is particularly useful for two reasons.
1.    The story is always exactly the same as it has been recorded
2.    It is easier to stay focused and not get distracted

Good luck with your FIM and doing it for 30 days – you will be AMAZED at the results.

To practice creating a FIM, here is a Free FIM Download to create 2009 as your best year yet

If you have any further tips or tricks or questions about the Futurre Imagined Memory technique or visualisation, please leave a comment below.

 

Everything in life is a story.

Your mind is forever making up stories; it is a non-stop story-making machine. When you focus or concentrate on a specific thought, your mind links that thought to other thoughts and abracadabra, it creates strings of thoughts that it labels ‘the truth’. Amazingly whatever story we call ‘the truth’ becomes our reality.

Many thoughts that come into your mind are not your thoughts; they are other people’s thoughts. If you are not creating empowering stories and producing a fabulous, fun life – then who is creating those stories for you?

The media?
Your family?
Your friends?
Whose stories are you using to build your own story?

The majority of us revere the media and bow down to its all-knowingness of ‘the truth’. The media is merely a group of people who are good at telling stories, particularly negative stories. Our minds grab at those sensational stories with gusto and gobble them quickly, creating daisy chains of thoughts about death, destruction and disaster.

When your mother says, ‘You won’t be able to study at University because your marks are not good enough,’ this is a story. It is her story, but we take on these comments and thoughts as our stories and look around in our reality for other thoughts we can join like little pearls onto this thought-necklace until we create a band of beliefs tightly around our necks.

Most people, by the time they get into the office in the morning, have consumed thoughts about murder, robbery, corrupt politicians and bad weather from the radio or newspaper and wonder why they are stressed, tense and pessimistic about life or the country they live in. Of course, the story about the future of a country is also a story – it is not ‘the truth’.

If the story you are telling yourself at the moment is not working, the solution is simple. Choose another story!  

You can create yourself in your mind to be anything you want to be. Initially people laughed at me when I said I was a Fairy Godmother (some people still do), but as I have grown my story, more and more people now view it as ‘the truth’.

How do you Choose another Story?

The next Blog Post in 2 days time will be about How to Create Empowering Stories… but in the meantime to decrease the amount of negative stories being planted in your head why not go on a 1 week media diet?

Eg. no reading newspapers, listening to radio, watching television, reading magazines, or surfing internet news websites. 

Stop ALL of your daily consumption of the media.
Stop other people’s stories creating stories in your mind and watch how your life begins to transform…..

For those of you brave enough to take on this Fairy Godmother dare…. Please comment on it below….