If you have had a conversation with me in the last few months you may have heard me say “I’m manifesting a winter lover”. I could imagine nothing nicer than a warm body to cuddle up next to during this big FREEZE rather than my current bedtime companion – the hot water bottle.

As a Fairy Godmother, I teach people about how to create and manifest what they want in their lives. In my life, I put my teaching into practice and have managed to attract the most amazing opportunities, people, work, travel and fun. Yet, in the area of my winter lover, despite getting clear on what I wanted, doing my VAKGO visioning every morning for a month, telling people about it, it is now 4 months later and…. NOTHING!

Even though I know better, I have been stamping my foot impatiently and in the last month have been starting to demand at the universe “where is my god damn winter lover that I have been asking for?”

Then I met my friend Simon last week and he shared about how he was inspired about my idea of a winter lover when he heard it about month ago. He then gleefully and blissfully told me that he has since manifested a sexy, French winter lover who actually leaves to go to India in 3 months – so she really is just a winter lover.

WHAT?!!!!

I have been asking for FOUR months and yet Simon manifests his lover in a matter of weeks?

I was seriously starting to question my Fairy Godmother manifesting abilities, but then as he described his manifestation of his lover, the lesson hit me like a thunderbolt from the blue –

You see, Simon decided he wanted a winter lover, he got clear on what he was looking for and then he did something about it. Firstly, he put an advert on the Gumtree saying he was looking for a winter lover, he then signed up to a dating website, he went on a few dates and he went up to a few interesting girls and asked them for their numbers. And….. Voila! After 3 weeks of setting his intention, Simon has a gorgeous winter lover who he is having loads of fun with.

The lesson is, if you want to manifest something in reality you have to TAKE ACTION!

I, on the other hand, have been all visioning and talk and NO ACTION and the RESULT = NO WINTER LOVER.

If I look back at the last 4 months, the universe has sent me lots of “answers” to my asking and opportunities to take action and yet I have conveniently ignored my part of the manifesting process.

Opportunity number 1:

Within a week of me getting clear and starting to vision a winter lover, my friend Grant, told me he had the perfect book for me and a week later he placed it in my hands.

It is called “The Program – how to find a husband after 30” and when I read the title I thought “I’m not looking for a husband, merely a lover” and since then the book has been gathering dust. Who knows what pearls of wisdom could be hidden in that book that could have helped me manifest a warm, bedtime buddy?

Opportunity number 2:

Another helpful friend, Michelle, suggested Internet Dating and even gave me the Dating Buzz URL and 3 good reasons why I should do it. Despite me nodding in agreement, my inner voice made up some excuse about “not having time” and the result…. Well, Michelle has found her winter lover. She scores 1 and I score 0.

A Myriad of Opportunities

In hindsight, as I look back over the last 4 months I can see that the Universe has been sending me opportunity after opportunity to take some action which will enable me to realize my dream and yet I have embarrassingly done NOTHING about it.

And it has taken me four months to actually realize that even though I have been speaking about it, I have been DOING nothing about it.

Creation happens first in thought, then in speaking and then through action.

So if you are stuck with a dream or goal that you want to turn into reality then ask yourself

Are you taking Action?

My action is that I have just joined Dating Buzz…. despite my little inner voice being negative about online dating. Who knows what other opportunities it may bring?

Watch this space!

 The Athabasca Glacier is a frozen cascade of blue-tinged ice that has formed over thousands of years. It meanders between dramatically carved mountains and as it recedes and melts, the waters wash into the river ways of Northern Canada.   Today I stood on this shelf of 100 meters of compacted ice. As I surveyed the majesty of the snow-capped mountain peaks, I was conscious that there was over a thousand years of creation under my feet.  This glacier has inch by inch carved the magnificent mountains and valleys and fed the rivers for millennia. 

And as I stood there, I realized that there was a fundamental lesson being whispered to me by Mother Nature about creating and manifesting.   The lesson was encapsulated in the layers of compacted ice –

Grand creation takes time and nature has infinite patience.

In our current era we live in the “microwave culture”.  In our generation we are used to things happening quickly – Pop your dinner in the microwave and PING, two minutes later your meal is ready to eat.  One hundred years ago this meal would have taken most of the day to prepare and 50 years ago it may have taken an hour or two but in this age – PING, two minutes and it’s ready!  We have learned and been conditioned to expect immediate satisfaction.

As a Fairy Godmother I work with hundreds of people to make their dreams come true and this is one of the problems that comes up when people start manifesting their dreams – they want the “microwave” version of manifesting; the quick fix, “please-wave- your-wand-and-make-it-appear” variety of dream making.

What they sometimes forget is that in the process of creation and particularly creating out into reality that an important variable in the creation process is TIME!  When you first create your dreams or vision in your mind’s eye time is not a factor.  This part of the creation process is like planting a seed in the universal soil.  For this part of the manifesting process time does not exist – in the spiritual or universal realm there is no past or future there is only now.  It is when we are having this human experience that the construct of time exists – because the mind needs time to make sense of life.   Thus, time is needed for creation into the reality in which we live.  Time is needed for the tree to grow, the dream to hatch, for the glacier to carve the mountains and leave behind spectacular natural beauty.

“But how much time?” is a question I am often asked.  “Once I am clear on my dreams and goals; once I start visioning them in my mind’s eye;   how much time will it take for them to become reality?”

This is a difficult question to answer.  If we could understand and practice INFINITE patience then we would experience INSTANTANEOUS creation.
 
Because of our addiction to immediate results, when people who I work with do not experience quick signs of their dreams manifesting, they throw their hands up in despair and give up – “I tried, but it didn’t work” I hear them say.   Trying is not good enough.  A glacier doesn’t try to melt – it melts; a tree doesn’t try to grow – it grows and it knows that the growing takes time.

The key variables in manifesting and turning your dreams into reality are:

• Clarity of Vision
• Focus on the Dream
• Discipline to do the daily visioning
• Courage and Persistence to keep taking the necessary actions
• Passion and Perseverance
• Synchronicity and Serendipity from the Universe
• TIME

In human history, some big dreams have taken decades and some take lifetimes.  True visionaries understand that the majority of their dreams will only be realized beyond their lifetimes and yet nevertheless, everyday they still continue to walk the path to realize those dreams.

So if you have been “stomping your foot” impatiently because your dream or goal isn’t manifesting fast enough.  Take a deep breath, look out of your window at a tree outside and absorb the lesson from Mother Nature. 

Creation requires patience and creation takes time.  

A woman attended my Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshop a week ago in Durban and today I received this email from her…. she is already manifesting her dreams! (I have left off her name for the sake of anonimity!)

Hi Donna

Hope you are well. Thanks for all the inspiring emails – I really look forward to receiving them every day.

Quick update – after our workshop, I decided that before I manifest the 12 months off to travel WIG (Wildly Improbable Goal) I needed to find someone to travel with, and decided to make my WIG to meet someone special and get married – I have been divorced for 2.5 years now, and think it is time. Up until now I have had little interest in forming a relationship, or meeting guys – although I have had a profile on various online dating sites, I have not received much attention, or connected with anyone with whom I thought I would want to get to know better. Anyway, I started to manifest – getting married – have been doing the whole audio, visual, kinetic etc every day, and suddenly in the last 2 days I have been absolutely flooded with emails from guys all over the world – and though it is difficult to tell online, a much better quality that I previously experienced. I can hardly keep up with the emails I am receiving, the requests to meet for coffee, drinks etc – it is totally bizarre. The other day I was out for lunch with a friend and leaving the Beverley Hills a really cute guy was driving in. he smiled and waved, and I said to my friend, he probably just wants our parking. He turned around, waved again and drove off. When I drove off up the road, he had pulled over with his hazard lights on and flagged me down – just wanted to tell me I am very attractive and could we go for a drink – that sort of thing does not happen to me!!!!!

So – watch this space – you will be guest of honour at the wedding lol

Take care