Dear Fairy Godmother

I have learned so much from the 12 week Growing Wings program that I did with you, that I would love to share it.

I have learned that:

1. I have so much to be grateful for and I truly am

2. If one does not take the time to reflect on their actions, achievements, successes and failures – one misses the important lessons and the answers available, so pause, take a breath and let it all sink in.

3. Happiness is entirely self-made and I am a Self-made Happiness Millionaire
4. It’s not that difficult to achieve great things if you stop and think and respect yourself enough to realise that fears and obstacles exist either because we have mistakenly placed them there or to act as a warning sign, both should be acknowledged and respected.

5. No matter how hard we work for something there are often people in our lives who do not understand our dreams and insist they know better, this does not mean they don’t care (no matter how annoying it is).

6. Sometimes our dreams should be bigger than we make them; we mostly just don’t know (or believe) what we’re capable of

7. Just because it’s called a dream, doesn’t mean I shouldn’t strive to achieve it

8. People who deplete my tank shouldn’t get the most say in my life and on my actions.

9. The news is not necessarily right or a good thing just because Sky and the BBC produce it.

10. Despite what anyone says, my sleep needs are not a bad thing and I will not compromise them

11. If I don’t look after myself properly I am ineffective to myself, to others and worst of all to my Dreams

12. Fear, stress and too much television incapacitates everyone, not just me

13. My school teachers were all wrong and completely and selfishly crushed a dream because they couldn’t dream bigger or be bigger themselves.

14. Allowing myself time to do the things I love is not and should not ever be a luxury item, these things are number 1.

Vicki Canham – A Daring Dreamer

Hi Donna, my Fairy Godmother

Thank you to you and Michelle, the DreamCatcher, for the webseminar, it was truly magical and inspirational. It’s not easy to open up to people, especially with intimate things like dreams. I did not feel judged and more than ever feel that my dreams and goals are relevant and achievable.

Ever since I attended the Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop, I’ve been noticing that the good/positive is on my side and anything is possible. I’ve found out that if I truly ask with faith then my request is granted, it’s fantastic! The other day I was short on a funds to complete a home project, I let go of the worry and doubt and asked ‘with all of my being’ and in two days time I had more than I asked! Im still not sure how it works but I know it works and abundance is alive and everywhere!

Im ready and rearing to take AGGRESSIVE ACTION on my dreams and goals…

Lately, I’m less fearful and more faithful – I believe that’s the reason for my assertiveness when I recently spoke with my bosses at my job. I know that I’ll resign soon, just not sure when – is that strange? The fear of the unknown is still with me but as I said I would like to leave my comfort zone and need your help and support to do that please – I know that is why I joined the community, to have that ongoing help and support.

With that said, please prepare those spring boards – my launch time to the sky is here!

Regards
Oageng – A daring dreamer

One of my key intentions for 2010 is…

“to live and act out of a place of faith rather than fear”

In January this was hard, but at the end of January some magic and miracles occurred in my life that have now shifted me into a place deep faith.  It is a feeling of trusting that life is on my side and having the courage to believe that EVERYTHING (and I mean everything) that happens serves my life for the best.

I am finding that as I act out of this place of faith my life becomes magical, playful and fun…. Wheeeeuw!  How refreshing!

Read here about how to overcome your fears

So I urge you to use this last week in February to develop your faith – and I don’t mean only religion – I mean the simple belief, trust and knowing that everything is going to be okay.

Have faith!

1.    It is possible to live your dreams – no matter how wild, strange or unrealistic it initially seems. You can do anything.

2.    You are never given a dream or vision that you can’t achieve – if you can see it in your mind’s eye then you can have it, be it or do it.

3.    The first step is always the hardest, it is that leap of faith and then the net appears and the momentum of living your dreams begins.

4.    Listen to your body and your emotions, they are a clear indication of whether you are on the right path for you or not.  If you are continuously getting sick or feeling negative and down, it is your body’s way of telling you to make changes in your life.

5.    The fear never goes away.  Living an extraordinary life is about conquering the new fears as they come up.

6.    When you get an ANSWER from the Universe – take ACTION.   Actions are most effective when they follow an answer.

7.    Be brave enough to be your Authentic Self – when you express who you are and express your unique brand of genius and your incredible gifts that you have brought to the world, then the world comes up to meet you with opportunity.

8.    That having a few key people around who support your BIG dreams is so important during the times when you are experiencing self doubt.

9.    Take time in your day to connect to spirit – to connect to that which is ALL and EVERYTHING.

10.    The quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions that you ask.  Ask good questions and the universe will ALWAYS provide the answers.

11.    That life is about having fun. It is about learning how to play again and rediscovering the magic, which we all knew and experienced in our childhoods but lost somewhere along the way as we grew up.

12.    Ask daily, “how can I serve today?”

13.    If it is not fun, stop doing it!

14.    Be grateful for everything that you have and for everything that you are creating.

What are some of your lessons that you have learned?

Please comment on your lessons below…

Everywhere you go you can’t escape the pervasive story about the credit crunch and economic crisis.  If it is not the TV blabbing about economic doom-and-gloom, then it is probably your friend or colleague in the cubicle next to you moaning about money.

My concern as a Fairy Godmother around this ‘recession’ mentality is that stories of economic crisis are disempowering stories, negative stories that increase personal stress, anxiety, fear and decrease your ability to be empowered and manifest and create your dream life.

Here are 5 reasons why you should drop the ‘recession’ mentality.

1.    It is just a Story and Stories Create Your Life

Whatever stories you fill your mind with will quickly become your reality.  Do you really want to be in poverty, misery and have to scrimp and save for the next decade?  No?
Well then STOP filling your head with stories about the economic crisis.  Stop listening to the media and most importantly stop talking to friends about it.  Get responsible and create another EMPOWERING story.

(See previous blog post on How to Create empowering Stories)

2.    There are Two Economies – yours and the Macro-Economy

Yes, the Macro-economy may be experiencing a slow down, however at this time there are still people making millions of dollars and some are making more money than ever before.  The difference between these people and the majority are that they realise that there are TWO economies – YOUR Economy and your country or world economy i.e. the macro-economy.  As an individual there is not much you can do about the world economy but there is a HUGE amount you can do to influence your own personal bank balance.

When the ‘crisis’ began, I realised that I needed to make up an empowering story that would influence my personal economy. My Fairy Godmother story about the current situation is that “in times of crisis people need inspiration, so now is the time for my business to boom.” Guess what?  Business is booming for me!
And because I am aware of this story doing the rounds called ‘economic crisis’, I have started an early bird special on my workshops, where if people book and pay early they get a good discount and those offers are being snapped up. I am now filling up my workshops and am sold out four weeks in advance!  I have created my own booming economy despite the macro conditions.

3.    Look for Opportunities

Warren Buffet has a quote “When everyone is greedy be fearful and when everyone is fearful, be greedy”. People in the marketplace are fearful, so now is the perfect time to capitalize on opportunities that others are too fearful to take.

A friend of mine in New York who runs www.urbandaddy.com is using this time as an opportunity. He has gone on a massive PR campaign and instead of firing, he is hiring.  Why? He chuckled when he told me that he is now able to hire top MBA talent at a fraction of their previous cost.  The result is his business is booming.

The courageous will prosper and thrive. So get courageous, do things differently to the majority.  Will it take something?  Certainly, but the rewards will be huge. Now is the time.

4.    Fear doesn’t create anything

Creation as an energy form is expansive and growing. Fear as an energy type contracts and debilitates.  When you are fearful you don’t take action in your life and live in a constant state of negativity and mediocrity.  The story of ‘economic crisis’ is a fear based story of scarcity, lack and victimhood.   If you really want to live a life of your dreams, where you are turning your goals into reality you will need to conquer the fears around you, so that you can step into the expansive and thriving energy of creation.

picture above from www.gapingvoid.com

5.    Your country needs you

Your country needs you to be an opportunist, an optimist and someone who is creating value and moving the world out of this macro financial state.  The longer people are paralysed by fear and scarcity, the longer it will take the macro world economy to move out of recession.  The longer you remain in the ‘story’ of financial crisis, the longer the world will remain in the same story.   Your country and the world needs you to adopt an empowering story of creation, opportunity, wealth and abundance to shift the current energy. It is all up to you.

Part 2 – Overcoming your Fears

Part 1 of this post highlighted the 7 Deadly Fears that stop us from living our dreams.
If you are under attack by one of these fears, how would you know?  How would you know that you are in fear?

Due to the stealthy nature of these fears, you would probably not feel or even sense any physical changes that would indicate the presence of fear.  It is only when we are in heightened states of fear that we get the sweaty palms, the beating heart and the physical symptoms of fear.    The only way to catch these fears and to detect their lurking is to recognize that you are NOT TAKING ACTION. If you are not taking action in line with your dreams and goals, then you are in FEAR.

NOT TAKING ACTION = FEAR

In fact PROCRASTINATION is just a nice long word for fear!

There is an exercise for fear that thousands of people, who have attended my workshops, now use to step through their fears and into action.

The first step is to become aware that you are in fear.  If you have read part 1 of this post, the signs of fear will be more apparent.    When you are doing all those trivial little bits and pieces so that you avoid making that important phone call – then you are in fear.   When you go to fridge and spend an hour baking a cake and then eating it, so that you don’t have time to write that proposal – then you are fear.  If you go out partying with your friends or sit and watch three hours of meaningless television instead of doing the paper work required to form a new company – then you are in fear.   Lethargy, distraction, procrastination and busy-ness are all great cover-ups for fear.

Once you are aware that you are not taking action then you go down the list of fears to determine which fear it is that is prevalent and is preventing you from moving forward.

Once you have determined the fear that is creating the inertia (and it may be a combination of two or three of these fears).  Then you do the written exercise below

What action am I not taking?

What is the underlying fear(s)?

If I take this action

What is the best thing that can happen?

What is the worst thing that can happen?

You must do this as a written exercise.  If you try to do it in your mind instead of writing it all down, the fear inside your head, will try to rationalise and persuade you that the fear is perfectly justifiable.   Once you have done it as a written exercise you will notice that the worst thing that can happen is never as bad as the fear that you feel and often the worst thing that can happen is the current status quo.

Do you have any tips for overcoming fear – please share them with us, so that we can all learn from each other and can conquer our fears.

Overcome your fears, get into ACTION and start living your dreams.  You know you can do it – jump over your fear and DO IT NOW!