We live in a time of accelerating and unpredictable change – 10 short years ago hardly any of us had heard of Google and yet now we can’t live without it. The only certain thing in life is change and yet most of us don’t like it.

The best way for us as individuals to cope with change is to draw up a clear plan for the future – and to establish goals so that our lives move predominantly in the direction in which we want them to go.  In this way we get a fair degree of control over the important elements of our lives, and achieve a far greater sense of personal power and well-being.

Having dreams and setting goals will give you a clear sense of direction. People without goals tend to get bumped around by circumstances and they ‘react’ to these circumstances whereas people who have goals view their circumstances and make ‘proactive’ decisions to move them closer to where they want to be.

What are your goals?

Here is a simple exercise to help you cope with change.

Exercise

Take a moment to think about some areas of life that are important to you –
Your career, your family, your finances, your health and fitness, your personal development.

Take a blank sheet of paper and make each area a heading in each of these areas write down one goal.  This can be a big goal or a small goal.  Just write it down.  Stick the piece of paper next to your desk and every morning read each of your goals out loud.  When practised consistently you will be amazed at the shifts that begin to occur in your life.

At Harvard Business School they did a study and found that people who had clearly written goals were the people who achieved financial success and were able to retire wealthy.  Says something for writing down your goals, doesn’t it!

My new book The Fairy Godmother’s Guide to Getting What you Want will give you an in-depth guide to turning your dreams and goals into reality – it is available in all major bookstores around South Africa.

I have just had the most wonderful trip to Cape Town making Magic and sprinkling Fairy Dust and helping lots of people get clear on their dreams and goals and how to turn them into reality.

I had a very successful Possibility Evening where we examined The Mind and Beliefs and how our beliefs help or hinder us in achieving our dreams and goals.  I had a sold-out Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop where 24 people got inspired, clear, focused and into ACTION on their dreams and goals.

I also met Adin van Ryneveld who is a very DARING dreamer… he has embarked on a project called (adin)5 where for the next 5 years he is going to do what I call an ‘abundance experiment’ to test the abundance of the Universe.  He is going to donate 80% of what he earns to charity and the other 20% goes to servicing his credit card debt and to live he is going to rely on the kindness of friends, family and strangers.   I heard about his project and as a Fairy Godmother I am a BIG supporter of ANY dream – no matter how wild and crazy (in fact the wilder and crazier the better).  I knew that to help him on his journey he would need the tools, techniques and tips on how to manifest and create what he wants and who better to get that from than the Fairy Godmother!    So I donated him a place at my Possibility Evening and on my Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop (because he can’t pay for it, because the money that he earns goes to charity).

He was so excited about this, that he made a little video – take a look

So people that I meet in my work as a Fairy Godmother come up with the excuse that they can’t live their dreams because they won’t be able to afford to  ‘pay the bills’ or get by.  I love that Adin is destroying that myth with his project, by giving away ALL his earnings and still being able to live – how EXTRAORDINARY!

For more on his project go to http://adin5.wordpress.com/ or become his friend on Facebook

Want to live your dream life and do what you love?

Do you know what that looks like or how to make it happen for yourself?

Just think: When you are driving, you know where you want to go and you plot out your route. When you plan and prepare a meal, you follow a recipe and monitor the food as it cooks. How much attention do you give to planning the direction of your life?

Set up your life powerfully by spending a full day on a Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshop to get clear on your dreams, ‘map-out’ your goals and focus on the direction for your life. Take the time for YOU – to review your life, re-evaluate what you are doing and where you want to go. To ensure you are on track for what you most want.

Outcomes

By the end of the workshop you will

• Have clarity, focus, direction and tangible tools to use to create a life you love
• Be clear on a future direction for your life
• Have given yourself time to relax and play
• Have made a Dream Collage to take home to remind you of what you want
• Have given yourself time for you
• You will have a Big Goal to inspire you
• Find a renewed zest and energy for life
• Have practical tools to use in your day-to-day life to turn your dreams into reality

“My relationships at work have changed already; I am so much more positive and compassionate, and meetings that used to be dreadful to me have actually been quite inspiring and energising. Also, in my morning visioning exercise I am on a TV show – and guess what, a producer from Free Spirit is seeing me on Tuesday!”

Shakti Malan, Cape Town, South Africa

Workshop Dates

Durban

Date: Sunday 1 November 2009
Time: 10h00 – 18h00
Venue: Glenwood
Price: R 690 (including materials)

To Book

Email workshops@fairygodmotherinc.com or call 082-411-3875

“Powerful, touching, clear, playful, truthful.”
Ercan Altub – Hamburg, Germany

“Exceptional! I had fears to come along because I did not want to have an afternoon of esoteric talk which I couldn’t draw real possibilities from. The positivity emanating from Donna and the group was amazing. I genuinely know this course will help me to accept ‘the flow of life’ and stop feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.”

Mandy La Grange – London, United Kingdom

What is Dream Mapping and Goal Setting?

Dream Mapping is a process to help you get clear on what you want in your life, or in a specific aspect of your life and then to set BIG goals to help you achieve those dreams.
During this experiential workshop we will go through a series of exercises to assist you in realizing and crystallising your dreams for yourself and your life. The workshop will include relaxation, mind and dream theory, creating your own dream collage, and then basic tools to use on a day-to-day basis for manifesting your dreams.
You will relax, cut & paste, have fun & get in touch with the dreams that linger in your soul!

“An amazing workshop. You have really touched lives and truly are a fairy godmother. I have been on a number of self development courses and yours is among the best.”

Deelesh Ravjee – Johannesburg, South Africa

“For the first time in my life I have a dream I can see and feel and touch and have the tools to achieve it.”

Bev Doyle – Johannesburg, South Africa

Workshop Facilitator

Donna McCallum is a Fantastically Fabulous and Magical Fairy Godmother.
She is an inspirational communicator with a passion for people, turning vision into reality, business, making things happen, connection and making a difference.
She is the MD of Fairy Godmother Inc. a business committed to spreading the message that it is possible to live your dreams.
Prior to being a Fairy Godmother Donna was a serial entrepreneur who has started, run and sold a number of successful businesses in both Marketing and IT.

“Dream mapping is a most amazing tool, and has changed my life. I am suddenly in touch with my goals and dreams and am taking action into achieving and making something worthwhile of my life. God bless you as you go about spreading your fairy dust!”
Meryl-Lynne Colborne, Durban, South Africa

 Start with one positive thought.

If you repeat that thought over and over again and focus on it enough, the mind will latch onto it and do its smart work of looking around the physical world for other thoughts to match it. It creates a thread of thought that becomes a story as more thoughts corroborate the first.

Many teachers have written about this technique over many years – it is called affirmation. An affirmation is a made-up, empowering thought. Repeat out loud to yourself as you get ready in the morning.  Write it on post-it notes and stick these wherever you will come across them in your daily life – on your fridge, your desk, your bathroom mirror. In a few days, weeks or months your mind will take the sentence and create a story out of it with other thoughts that it finds in the world. You will find you are living in a new story and have thus created a new reality of the mind, which in turn creates a new reality in the physical world.

Affirmations should be constructed and repeated in the present tense. Here are some examples of affirmations:
•    I deserve to be wealthy.
•    I am a being of light and whoever I touch feels inspired.
•    I attract loving, caring men into my life.
•    I take excellent care of my body and crave only healthy food and beverages.
•    I am young and successful earning at least R30 000 a month.

When you begin the first tentative mumblings of affirmations, you may feel silly, and some of these affirmations may conflict with existing stories suspended somewhere in the sky of your mind. When you say an affirmation, it may conflict with a ‘bigger, stronger story’ (i.e. one that has more thoughts attached to it). The bigger, stronger story doesn’t like this pesky new-thought-on-the-block and will try to quickly punch it out of existence as it fights to maintain its place in the mind. This is because the mind does not like to encounter contradictory thoughts; it wants to be ‘right’, and how can it be right if two contradictory stories are both true?

As you repeat the words, ‘I am now and always will be responsible with my money,’ the contradictory story may chatter in your mind. The bigger, disempowering story will try to squash this new thought by bringing up evidence, examples and thoughts about why this new thought is not the truth.  ‘Don’t be ridiculous! You, responsible with money? Why do you have R40 000 worth of credit card debt if you are so responsible, huh?’

The trick at this stage of the affirmation game is twofold:

1.    Become the observer of your thoughts and realise both thoughts are stories and neither is the truth. The disempowering story is in a fight for its survival.

2.    Keep repeating the new affirmation – as often as possible. Have it around you as much as possible. Write it often. Repeating the affirmation or thought will create the sticky glue that it needs to attach itself to other thoughts and thus form the chain that creates a new story.

If you continue to do this, at some stage you will notice the old story simply disappears because the new story has enough corroborating thoughts to make it grow bigger and become ‘the truth’.   And that beautiful thing about creating empowering ‘truths’ is that your reality will begin to match whatever your mind believes to be true.

Create an affirmation now.

Get out those post-it notes, write it down.  Repeat it out loud while driving, in the shower or before you go to sleep at night and watch as your life magically transforms in that area.

Yes – the magic is that simple!

I was walking in Sandton City Shopping Centre yesterday and my Fairy Godmother heart leapt with delight as I chanced upon these two pieces of Advertising….

And this one too….

When these types of positive messages about

• Following our dreams
• Our individual power to change the world
• Our stepping beyond our fears into our greatness

move into the mainstream media like this, it signifies to me a massive shift in consciousness. People are beginning to realise that they can live their dreams and be the change that they want to see in the world.

I urge the media and advertisers out there to be conscious of putting out positive messaging, rather than negative messaging that pollutes our minds.

As these positive messages seep into our environment and our realities, I urge you to heed their message and take your next BOLD action in living your dreams….

P.S. – Anyone know who created these ads?

Because I would love to give them a Fairy Godmother reward….  leave a comment below