Dear Fairy Godmother

Can’t believe I am writing to you, but at this stage I really don’t care!

We have been married for 8 years.  I have an amazing husband that loves me very much as much I love him.  We have been trying to fall pregnant for 7 years.  We did one invitro but it did not work.  We don’t have a lot of money and need to save to go again for the next invitro!  This will take about 2 years!  We would love to have a baby and we will be good parents!  We don’t know where to start to adopt a baby and don’t know if we want to.  I really want to be pregnant, I want to have a belly, I want to have morning sickness and everything that comes with pregnancies.

Can’t explain how difficult it is to face all my friends and family over birthdays and holidays and seeing all the kids!  It breaks my heart.  My husband will be an amazing father and I just want to give him a baby girl.  I will be turning 37 this year, so each year we wait or try it gets more difficult.

I actually don’t know why I am writing to you; maybe you can sprinkle some of your fairy dust over us!  You do amazing work, making people happy and helping them achieving their dreams, keep it up!

Thanks, I do actually feel better writing this!

Love

T – A Daring Dreamer  (name omitted for anonimity purposes)

Hi Daring Dreamer

Thank you so much for your email.  My apologies for taking so long to respond, I have been in a swirling whirl of magic-making which is great fun but email answering tends to go awry!

Here’s a little story about a woman in Cape Town who also desperately wanted kids … she attended my first ever Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop in Cape Town and her dream was to have a family.  6 months after the workshop (through invitro) she was pregnant with twins… she had previously had 2 other invitro treatments that hadn’t taken.  Was it the workshop that helped her? Perhaps… was it the invitro – perhaps… was it a combination of the two – I would like to think so, but who knows?

When it comes to the grandest of creations that human beings can create – it is VERY difficult to dictate to God/ the Universe/ Life – how you want it to work.

In fact on ANYTHING you can never dictate/ control how it is going to work/ happen.

My advice to you is “let go of the attachment” to having children… at the moment you want it SO badly and are gripping onto it so tightly… that you aren’t giving the incredible energy of  life the ability to allow it to happen.   Your email is filled with a sense of this ‘desperation’ of wanting it to happen and the emotion that this generates is – “I don’t have it”/ “Something is missing” and this emotion comes from a place of fear and scarcity…. and from an ‘attraction’ perspective in life, we attract the same ‘emotions’ that we give out….
Eg. If you are sending out desperation… what you get back is more desperation!

If you are sending out faith and calm – you get more faith and calm… which is the perfect baby-making emotion.  In fact it is the perfect emotion for any type of creation – whether it is making babies or starting a business.
I urge you to let go of the attachment (easier said than done) and move into a place of faith and ‘knowing’ – that you and your husband are the most incredible parents with a beautiful child.

If you would like to learn some tools that you can apply into your life to help you to do this, please join me for one of our Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshops – I think it may really help.  I am not sure where in the country you are… but I have workshops now scheduled for Jo’burg and Cape Town.

Thank you again for being brave enough to email me… asking for help is always a good start!

Wishes and Magic
Donna
P.S. Serendipity!

Life is meant to be fun and our purpose here as human beings is to experience all the wonders, magic and entertainment of this spinning amusement park called Earth. We are the lucky ones, the Spirits who won the admission ticket in the big universal raffle and were allowed entrance to this realm of the physical plane where we can create and do whatever we wish.

Life is like the Prince’s ball: a place where we can connect with other people, dance, sing and play dress-up. But if life is a ball, a fun, amazing adventure, why are so many people having the Cinderella experience of being in a dirty kitchen scrubbing floors? Why is it that only other people, the Ugly Sisters, experience life as a ball?

The reason why is because life is an illusion – it is not real. Our lives are an illusion of the body and mind. Your perceptions, your mind and the corresponding sensations your body feels, create your reality. The secret is: Life is actually one big fairytale and you are the grand, eloquent storyteller. But most of us have forgotten this.

You have the power to create your story.

In each moment you decide the next glorious twist or disastrous turn of your story. You introduce heroes and villains, victims and martyrs, supporters and foes. You determine whether the story is one you like or one you can’t bear.

A delightful fairytale character existed in the twentieth century. He had a thin, black upward-pointing moustache, a cape, a walking stick and a haughty expression. He was originally a self-titled and later a world-renowned ‘genius’ – he was the artist Salvador Dali. He intrinsically knew he was the star in the movie called Dali’s Life. As a result, he created a life of fun and immense pleasure – he was a man who created a life he wanted. He even had a line in his ‘movie’ called life that encapsulated his mischievous, playful approach to the creation of his own story:

‘Every morning when I wake up, I experience an exquisite joy – the joy of being Salvador Dali – and I ask myself in rapture: What wonderful things is this Salvador Dali going to accomplish today?’

This was a man who drew clocks melting like camembert cheese to explain the illusion of time; who allowed his genius to express itself in whatever form, and who truly understood the surreal nature of life. In an interview on the program 60 Minutes, Dali kept referring to himself in the third person – an outrageous character he created who expressed his true essence.

Why don’t we all wake up with this kind of exuberance regularly? Why don’t we get out of bed, blissfully bounce to our bathrooms, look in the mirror, kiss the magnificent image that greets us and exclaim ‘Goodness, how wonderful to be me! How incredible to be a grand creator. What do I wish to create today?’

Instead, most people have become stuck in a boring, hum-drum nine-to-five existence called ‘this is life’, believing that this is real and can’t be changed. How sad! We have forgotten that each of us is a master storyteller with a skilful pen to create any story we want. Each of us is the only storyteller responsible for the creation of our own lives.

If you have had a conversation with me in the last few months you may have heard me say “I’m manifesting a winter lover”. I could imagine nothing nicer than a warm body to cuddle up next to during this big FREEZE rather than my current bedtime companion – the hot water bottle.

As a Fairy Godmother, I teach people about how to create and manifest what they want in their lives. In my life, I put my teaching into practice and have managed to attract the most amazing opportunities, people, work, travel and fun. Yet, in the area of my winter lover, despite getting clear on what I wanted, doing my VAKGO visioning every morning for a month, telling people about it, it is now 4 months later and…. NOTHING!

Even though I know better, I have been stamping my foot impatiently and in the last month have been starting to demand at the universe “where is my god damn winter lover that I have been asking for?”

Then I met my friend Simon last week and he shared about how he was inspired about my idea of a winter lover when he heard it about month ago. He then gleefully and blissfully told me that he has since manifested a sexy, French winter lover who actually leaves to go to India in 3 months – so she really is just a winter lover.

WHAT?!!!!

I have been asking for FOUR months and yet Simon manifests his lover in a matter of weeks?

I was seriously starting to question my Fairy Godmother manifesting abilities, but then as he described his manifestation of his lover, the lesson hit me like a thunderbolt from the blue –

You see, Simon decided he wanted a winter lover, he got clear on what he was looking for and then he did something about it. Firstly, he put an advert on the Gumtree saying he was looking for a winter lover, he then signed up to a dating website, he went on a few dates and he went up to a few interesting girls and asked them for their numbers. And….. Voila! After 3 weeks of setting his intention, Simon has a gorgeous winter lover who he is having loads of fun with.

The lesson is, if you want to manifest something in reality you have to TAKE ACTION!

I, on the other hand, have been all visioning and talk and NO ACTION and the RESULT = NO WINTER LOVER.

If I look back at the last 4 months, the universe has sent me lots of “answers” to my asking and opportunities to take action and yet I have conveniently ignored my part of the manifesting process.

Opportunity number 1:

Within a week of me getting clear and starting to vision a winter lover, my friend Grant, told me he had the perfect book for me and a week later he placed it in my hands.

It is called “The Program – how to find a husband after 30” and when I read the title I thought “I’m not looking for a husband, merely a lover” and since then the book has been gathering dust. Who knows what pearls of wisdom could be hidden in that book that could have helped me manifest a warm, bedtime buddy?

Opportunity number 2:

Another helpful friend, Michelle, suggested Internet Dating and even gave me the Dating Buzz URL and 3 good reasons why I should do it. Despite me nodding in agreement, my inner voice made up some excuse about “not having time” and the result…. Well, Michelle has found her winter lover. She scores 1 and I score 0.

A Myriad of Opportunities

In hindsight, as I look back over the last 4 months I can see that the Universe has been sending me opportunity after opportunity to take some action which will enable me to realize my dream and yet I have embarrassingly done NOTHING about it.

And it has taken me four months to actually realize that even though I have been speaking about it, I have been DOING nothing about it.

Creation happens first in thought, then in speaking and then through action.

So if you are stuck with a dream or goal that you want to turn into reality then ask yourself

Are you taking Action?

My action is that I have just joined Dating Buzz…. despite my little inner voice being negative about online dating. Who knows what other opportunities it may bring?

Watch this space!