If you have had a conversation with me in the last few months you may have heard me say “I’m manifesting a winter lover”. I could imagine nothing nicer than a warm body to cuddle up next to during this big FREEZE rather than my current bedtime companion – the hot water bottle.

As a Fairy Godmother, I teach people about how to create and manifest what they want in their lives. In my life, I put my teaching into practice and have managed to attract the most amazing opportunities, people, work, travel and fun. Yet, in the area of my winter lover, despite getting clear on what I wanted, doing my VAKGO visioning every morning for a month, telling people about it, it is now 4 months later and…. NOTHING!

Even though I know better, I have been stamping my foot impatiently and in the last month have been starting to demand at the universe “where is my god damn winter lover that I have been asking for?”

Then I met my friend Simon last week and he shared about how he was inspired about my idea of a winter lover when he heard it about month ago. He then gleefully and blissfully told me that he has since manifested a sexy, French winter lover who actually leaves to go to India in 3 months – so she really is just a winter lover.

WHAT?!!!!

I have been asking for FOUR months and yet Simon manifests his lover in a matter of weeks?

I was seriously starting to question my Fairy Godmother manifesting abilities, but then as he described his manifestation of his lover, the lesson hit me like a thunderbolt from the blue –

You see, Simon decided he wanted a winter lover, he got clear on what he was looking for and then he did something about it. Firstly, he put an advert on the Gumtree saying he was looking for a winter lover, he then signed up to a dating website, he went on a few dates and he went up to a few interesting girls and asked them for their numbers. And….. Voila! After 3 weeks of setting his intention, Simon has a gorgeous winter lover who he is having loads of fun with.

The lesson is, if you want to manifest something in reality you have to TAKE ACTION!

I, on the other hand, have been all visioning and talk and NO ACTION and the RESULT = NO WINTER LOVER.

If I look back at the last 4 months, the universe has sent me lots of “answers” to my asking and opportunities to take action and yet I have conveniently ignored my part of the manifesting process.

Opportunity number 1:

Within a week of me getting clear and starting to vision a winter lover, my friend Grant, told me he had the perfect book for me and a week later he placed it in my hands.

It is called “The Program – how to find a husband after 30” and when I read the title I thought “I’m not looking for a husband, merely a lover” and since then the book has been gathering dust. Who knows what pearls of wisdom could be hidden in that book that could have helped me manifest a warm, bedtime buddy?

Opportunity number 2:

Another helpful friend, Michelle, suggested Internet Dating and even gave me the Dating Buzz URL and 3 good reasons why I should do it. Despite me nodding in agreement, my inner voice made up some excuse about “not having time” and the result…. Well, Michelle has found her winter lover. She scores 1 and I score 0.

A Myriad of Opportunities

In hindsight, as I look back over the last 4 months I can see that the Universe has been sending me opportunity after opportunity to take some action which will enable me to realize my dream and yet I have embarrassingly done NOTHING about it.

And it has taken me four months to actually realize that even though I have been speaking about it, I have been DOING nothing about it.

Creation happens first in thought, then in speaking and then through action.

So if you are stuck with a dream or goal that you want to turn into reality then ask yourself

Are you taking Action?

My action is that I have just joined Dating Buzz…. despite my little inner voice being negative about online dating. Who knows what other opportunities it may bring?

Watch this space!

Samarie Smith from Die Burger recently attended a Dream Mapping and Goal Setting Workshop and then afterwards interviewed me, the Fairy Godmother. She asked some thought provoking questions and so I thought it would be great to blog the questions and answers to provide valuable tips to pursuing your dreams.

SS: What is dreaming and why should we dream?

FGM: Dreaming is the most powerful tool for creating your life – it is the time when you let your imagination wander, you get in touch with your desires, you get in touch with your soul and then you begin to see images in your mind’s eye of how you would like those desires to be fulfilled in reality. The reason why we should spend time dreaming is because everything that exists in reality is actually created twice – first as a dream in our minds and then secoundly out in reality. Everything that is and has ever been created starts with a dream, it is really the beginning of the act of creation.

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One of my first ever Fairy Godmothering duties was to help an actor who wanted to become a World Famous Stand-up Comedian. The job was to wand-wave and to kick-start him on the path to his dreams.

That was a few years ago and over a number of delicious burgers at Royale in Cape Town, with many scribbles on sheets of paper and a whole lot of wand-whacking to get him into action, Nik Rabinowitz took the super courageous step of putting on his first one man show called “One Man, One Goat”. The show was very well received in the original little theatre space that he used in Obz cafe. And as his courage grew and he took more action and his popularity grew too (funny how action tends to yield results!). And I flushed all over with Fairy Godmother pride when earlier this year I sat with 200 other people and watched Nik do his one man show in Jo’burg, which he packed out every night for a month!

And now Nik is back with a new show and is truly living his dreams

For those dreamers who are in Cape Town, go and watch the show and support Nik as he dares to live his dreams. Of course, he will keep you in stiches in the process…

As a Fairy Godmother, I am an evangelist for people dreaming Big Dreams and then enjoying the journey of following them. My own life is hence filled with big dreams and sometimes I find myself getting overwhelmed in the following of them.

While I am certainly enjoying the deliciously magical journey of turning vision into reality, lately, as I have been skipping down the path of ‘making dreams come true’ I have suddenly found myself taking a few detours, getting caught up in the urgent but not important and being ‘too busy’.

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