Believing in yourself is a key element to creating the results that you want for yourself in your life…

Let’s talk a little bit about belief. One way of looking at life is that life is a series of results  – your bank balance is a result, the state of your relationships is a result, and you reading this article today is a result! So what gives us our results? Our actions – you take an action and you get a result!

So what gives us our actions, what makes us take the actions we do? Our thoughts. We all have this little voice that chatters non-stop throughout the day. It is consistently chattering with thoughts. These thoughts almost pop into our head likes popcorn. So what gives us our thoughts?

Our Beliefs.

Our beliefs are formed through something we saw, heard and experienced in our past – from teachers, parents, media, society…or repetitive thoughts … when this voice says something for long enough it becomes a belief. As a Fairy Godmother I am interested in the types of beliefs that pull you powerfully into your future and into living the life of your dreams.

So here’s an exercise – write down all the beliefs that you would need to have too achieve the result or dream that you want. Lets imagine you want a new job as a manager – some positive beliefs could be – (it doesn’t have to be true for you – just write down the beliefs). I work well with people, I enjoy managing and empowering others, I earn what I’m worth, I add great value to the company, and I love the work I do. These may not be your beliefs now, but the quickest way to cement them as beliefs and to achieve the results you want is to affirm them to yourself in both your thinking and your speaking.

So – write down those positive beliefs on a piece of paper, keep them in your car and on your way to work every morning, say each out loud 3 x …and whenever you hear your little voice being negative or you hear yourself speaking negative beliefs, – stop it and replace them with your new positive beliefs.

To learn more about how your mind and beliefs help or hinder you in achieving success… attend a two hour talk with Donna McCallum, the Fairy Godmother on Thursday 6 May from 19h30-21h30 at 30 Keyes Avenue in Rosebank (Johannesburg)
To book call 084-207-0202 or email info@fairygodmotherinc.com
For more info

One of the best techniques for creating and manifesting what you want is to ‘Act As If’ the dream or goal is a reality.   ‘Acting as if’ is very effective because it shows existence that you are in full faith and trust.  At the beginning of this process (as with many of the techniques like the FIM – Future Imagined Memory – or Affirmations) it may feel like you are faking it and the inner voice may whisper harsh words, but if you continue the process you will find that very soon answers will be dropping into your life to aid you in creating what you want.

If you want to be, do or have something then you need to play the part.

Shakespeare knew this part of manifesting when he wrote

“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts”

So begin to treat your life and the world as your stage for what you want to create.  When you have created a new Wildly Improbable Goal (WIG) consider how you would ‘play the part’ of the person living that WIG.  When you begin to relate to manifesting as a game you will find the fun, lightness and joy of life.  When you become too attached or serious about it, it can easily become a struggle.  The Universe loves it when you begin to really play the game and ‘acting as if’ is part of that playing.

So the question is, as a Daring Dreamer what can you begin to do to ‘act as if’ around your WIG or dreams and goals?  How do you begin to play the part?

Some ideas for actions you can take for “Acting as if”…

• Get Business cards made with your name and the designation of what you want to be doing  eg. Bridgette Bolton – Wildlife Documentary Filmmaker
• Organise a party for a manifestation you want to celebrate – eg. Zoe has organized a ‘yippee, I have a job party for early July’ to celebrate having landed her new job.
• Go to a networking function and introduce yourself as what you want to be doing, rather than what you are doing now.  eg.  Hi, I’m Kerry and I’m a photographer and poet.  (You will be amazed at what this begins to generate as people begin to relate to you as your dream, rather than what you do now.)
• Go and try out whatever it is you want.  Want to live on a farm?  Then organise to spend a weekend away on a farm and when you are there ‘act as if’ it is yours and you live there all the time.  Test drive the new car you want.  Go into the Gucci shop and try on the clothes and while you are doing it, feel like you are purchasing them.  Go into the travel agent and make enquiries about that trip you want to take.
• Clear space in your life for what you want.    If you want a new carpet for your living room then get rid of the old one.  This opens up space for the new one coming.
• Book time in your diary for the holidays you want to have, the things you want to manifest in time.
• Speak something as though it is happening in the present – “eg. oh yes, I am on the cover of that magazine.”
• Do the research around what you want.

Acting as if is very powerful because it assumes full faith and trust.

Consider your dreams, goals and the things you are wanting to manifest.  What are the things that you can start doing as ‘Acting as if’s’?

Write down your ‘acting as if’s’ as comments here…

Meditation is hard!

Even though I am a huge advocate of meditation in my book as a way to quieten the mind and connect to the soul, I have always found meditation really hard – having to focus on my breath, a sound, keeping my mind free from thoughts that insist on popping back into my mind – yikes!  That is until 6 weeks ago when I did a Transcendental Meditation course which has made meditation a breeze.

I now find myself easily meditating twice a day for 20 minutes and it has brought incredible calm, peace and real health and vitality to my life.

More on Transcendental Meditation, its benefits and the courses

Dear Fairy Godmother

Can’t believe I am writing to you, but at this stage I really don’t care!

We have been married for 8 years.  I have an amazing husband that loves me very much as much I love him.  We have been trying to fall pregnant for 7 years.  We did one invitro but it did not work.  We don’t have a lot of money and need to save to go again for the next invitro!  This will take about 2 years!  We would love to have a baby and we will be good parents!  We don’t know where to start to adopt a baby and don’t know if we want to.  I really want to be pregnant, I want to have a belly, I want to have morning sickness and everything that comes with pregnancies.

Can’t explain how difficult it is to face all my friends and family over birthdays and holidays and seeing all the kids!  It breaks my heart.  My husband will be an amazing father and I just want to give him a baby girl.  I will be turning 37 this year, so each year we wait or try it gets more difficult.

I actually don’t know why I am writing to you; maybe you can sprinkle some of your fairy dust over us!  You do amazing work, making people happy and helping them achieving their dreams, keep it up!

Thanks, I do actually feel better writing this!

Love

T – A Daring Dreamer  (name omitted for anonimity purposes)

Hi Daring Dreamer

Thank you so much for your email.  My apologies for taking so long to respond, I have been in a swirling whirl of magic-making which is great fun but email answering tends to go awry!

Here’s a little story about a woman in Cape Town who also desperately wanted kids … she attended my first ever Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop in Cape Town and her dream was to have a family.  6 months after the workshop (through invitro) she was pregnant with twins… she had previously had 2 other invitro treatments that hadn’t taken.  Was it the workshop that helped her? Perhaps… was it the invitro – perhaps… was it a combination of the two – I would like to think so, but who knows?

When it comes to the grandest of creations that human beings can create – it is VERY difficult to dictate to God/ the Universe/ Life – how you want it to work.

In fact on ANYTHING you can never dictate/ control how it is going to work/ happen.

My advice to you is “let go of the attachment” to having children… at the moment you want it SO badly and are gripping onto it so tightly… that you aren’t giving the incredible energy of  life the ability to allow it to happen.   Your email is filled with a sense of this ‘desperation’ of wanting it to happen and the emotion that this generates is – “I don’t have it”/ “Something is missing” and this emotion comes from a place of fear and scarcity…. and from an ‘attraction’ perspective in life, we attract the same ‘emotions’ that we give out….
Eg. If you are sending out desperation… what you get back is more desperation!

If you are sending out faith and calm – you get more faith and calm… which is the perfect baby-making emotion.  In fact it is the perfect emotion for any type of creation – whether it is making babies or starting a business.
I urge you to let go of the attachment (easier said than done) and move into a place of faith and ‘knowing’ – that you and your husband are the most incredible parents with a beautiful child.

If you would like to learn some tools that you can apply into your life to help you to do this, please join me for one of our Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshops – I think it may really help.  I am not sure where in the country you are… but I have workshops now scheduled for Jo’burg and Cape Town.

Thank you again for being brave enough to email me… asking for help is always a good start!

Wishes and Magic
Donna
P.S. Serendipity!

Hi Donna, my Fairy Godmother

Thank you to you and Michelle, the DreamCatcher, for the webseminar, it was truly magical and inspirational. It’s not easy to open up to people, especially with intimate things like dreams. I did not feel judged and more than ever feel that my dreams and goals are relevant and achievable.

Ever since I attended the Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop, I’ve been noticing that the good/positive is on my side and anything is possible. I’ve found out that if I truly ask with faith then my request is granted, it’s fantastic! The other day I was short on a funds to complete a home project, I let go of the worry and doubt and asked ‘with all of my being’ and in two days time I had more than I asked! Im still not sure how it works but I know it works and abundance is alive and everywhere!

Im ready and rearing to take AGGRESSIVE ACTION on my dreams and goals…

Lately, I’m less fearful and more faithful – I believe that’s the reason for my assertiveness when I recently spoke with my bosses at my job. I know that I’ll resign soon, just not sure when – is that strange? The fear of the unknown is still with me but as I said I would like to leave my comfort zone and need your help and support to do that please – I know that is why I joined the community, to have that ongoing help and support.

With that said, please prepare those spring boards – my launch time to the sky is here!

Regards
Oageng – A daring dreamer