Dear Fairy Godmother

Can’t believe I am writing to you, but at this stage I really don’t care!

We have been married for 8 years.  I have an amazing husband that loves me very much as much I love him.  We have been trying to fall pregnant for 7 years.  We did one invitro but it did not work.  We don’t have a lot of money and need to save to go again for the next invitro!  This will take about 2 years!  We would love to have a baby and we will be good parents!  We don’t know where to start to adopt a baby and don’t know if we want to.  I really want to be pregnant, I want to have a belly, I want to have morning sickness and everything that comes with pregnancies.

Can’t explain how difficult it is to face all my friends and family over birthdays and holidays and seeing all the kids!  It breaks my heart.  My husband will be an amazing father and I just want to give him a baby girl.  I will be turning 37 this year, so each year we wait or try it gets more difficult.

I actually don’t know why I am writing to you; maybe you can sprinkle some of your fairy dust over us!  You do amazing work, making people happy and helping them achieving their dreams, keep it up!

Thanks, I do actually feel better writing this!

Love

T – A Daring Dreamer  (name omitted for anonimity purposes)

Hi Daring Dreamer

Thank you so much for your email.  My apologies for taking so long to respond, I have been in a swirling whirl of magic-making which is great fun but email answering tends to go awry!

Here’s a little story about a woman in Cape Town who also desperately wanted kids … she attended my first ever Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshop in Cape Town and her dream was to have a family.  6 months after the workshop (through invitro) she was pregnant with twins… she had previously had 2 other invitro treatments that hadn’t taken.  Was it the workshop that helped her? Perhaps… was it the invitro – perhaps… was it a combination of the two – I would like to think so, but who knows?

When it comes to the grandest of creations that human beings can create – it is VERY difficult to dictate to God/ the Universe/ Life – how you want it to work.

In fact on ANYTHING you can never dictate/ control how it is going to work/ happen.

My advice to you is “let go of the attachment” to having children… at the moment you want it SO badly and are gripping onto it so tightly… that you aren’t giving the incredible energy of  life the ability to allow it to happen.   Your email is filled with a sense of this ‘desperation’ of wanting it to happen and the emotion that this generates is – “I don’t have it”/ “Something is missing” and this emotion comes from a place of fear and scarcity…. and from an ‘attraction’ perspective in life, we attract the same ‘emotions’ that we give out….
Eg. If you are sending out desperation… what you get back is more desperation!

If you are sending out faith and calm – you get more faith and calm… which is the perfect baby-making emotion.  In fact it is the perfect emotion for any type of creation – whether it is making babies or starting a business.
I urge you to let go of the attachment (easier said than done) and move into a place of faith and ‘knowing’ – that you and your husband are the most incredible parents with a beautiful child.

If you would like to learn some tools that you can apply into your life to help you to do this, please join me for one of our Dream Mapping and Goal Setting workshops – I think it may really help.  I am not sure where in the country you are… but I have workshops now scheduled for Jo’burg and Cape Town.

Thank you again for being brave enough to email me… asking for help is always a good start!

Wishes and Magic
Donna
P.S. Serendipity!